10 August 2008 Y
BLINKBLINK **
This week had been a really hard week for me.
So many things had happened. Sighs.
However, there is one thing that give me the most impact.
History repeated its history again.
I have so many questions in my mind.
Can anybody answer my questions?
1. Why can't an individual just be loyal to their life partner?
I reckon even aniamls can do a better job than human.
An example would be birds.
Birds are loyal and faithfyl to their life partner for their entire life.
So, why are human unable to do the same too?
Does this mean that animals are much better than human?
At least they are loyal and faithful to their partners.
2. Why there are third parties that will break up the families?
It is so sickening to have such people to do that.
I simply HATE such people.
Does this mean that the happiness which was shown by the couple previously was fake?
Making it just a scene to show that a couple if happy.
However, it is just an act?
Isn't that sad?
3. If there's such a thing called adultery, what should the other partner do when he/she discovered that their life partner has another person involved in their marriage?
Divorce? This will affect the whole family.
This is simply a selfish act of that person who does such thing.
Althernatively, should he/she pretend that nothing happened?
If he/she does that, would it makes one become crazy?
How long do you think that one person can stand it for how long?
After forgiving this person once for this mistake,
should the person be forgiven again once again if he/she commits the same mistake again?
Have the person actually thought of his/her family before doing such a thing.
Isn't it stupid?
He/she knows that it isn't right,
but yet still does it and still seek for forgiveness again after that.
If it is me, I reckon there won't be such history happening in my life.
I rather choose divorce rather than suffer repeatedly again.
No matter how much I love that person.
If he/she prefers that, I rather give the person the freedom rather than holding him back
which will in turn make myself suffer.
You can say that I am selfish.
But I rather protect myself rather than being hurt by such feelings again.
This leads to my other question:
4. During marriage, why are there marriage vows such as:
"Do you take ___ as your lawful wife/husband,
to have and to hold,
from this day forward,
for better or for worse,
for richer or for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love and cherish until death do you part?"
Does each party actually mean it at all?
Then why will there be adultery in the 1st place?
Sometimes I really wonder:
"Is there such thing called LOVE?"
I reckon from what I see, it doesnt seem to be the case.
How am I going to believe in love?
Seeing so many failed marriage in this world.
Sighs.
5. Why are there such thing called "Happily ever after?"
There is no such thing happening in such a world?
So many unhappy marriage or even relationship existed in this world.
I see some friends and family have long lasting relationship.
How do they actually do that?
It is due to
(a) habit of being togther?
(b) Real true love?
(c) Others which I also have no idea at all.
I need answers!!
Devastated.
Sad.
Angry.
Confused.
So many different kind of feelings mixed together.
What should I do?
Still believe in love?
Or should not believe that there is no such thing as love at all?
Should I just be single?
Just be together with someone and just be like that?
How am I going to get assurance for marriage and love?
It is so difficult.
I am still trying my best to stay faithful and loyal to the one I love.
However, seeing all these things that happened,
it just makes me worried.
Scared that such happy marriage won't happen in my life.
I really have no idea of what to do.
Sighs.
I can emphatize the victim (shown in the picture)
Now I have not much mood to talk now.
I shall continue to blog next time.
Sighs.
So many things had happened. Sighs.
However, there is one thing that give me the most impact.
History repeated its history again.
I have so many questions in my mind.
Can anybody answer my questions?
1. Why can't an individual just be loyal to their life partner?
I reckon even aniamls can do a better job than human.
An example would be birds.
Birds are loyal and faithfyl to their life partner for their entire life.
So, why are human unable to do the same too?
Does this mean that animals are much better than human?
At least they are loyal and faithful to their partners.
2. Why there are third parties that will break up the families?
It is so sickening to have such people to do that.
I simply HATE such people.
Does this mean that the happiness which was shown by the couple previously was fake?
Making it just a scene to show that a couple if happy.
However, it is just an act?
Isn't that sad?
3. If there's such a thing called adultery, what should the other partner do when he/she discovered that their life partner has another person involved in their marriage?
Divorce? This will affect the whole family.
This is simply a selfish act of that person who does such thing.
Althernatively, should he/she pretend that nothing happened?
If he/she does that, would it makes one become crazy?
How long do you think that one person can stand it for how long?
After forgiving this person once for this mistake,
should the person be forgiven again once again if he/she commits the same mistake again?
Have the person actually thought of his/her family before doing such a thing.
Isn't it stupid?
He/she knows that it isn't right,
but yet still does it and still seek for forgiveness again after that.
If it is me, I reckon there won't be such history happening in my life.
I rather choose divorce rather than suffer repeatedly again.
No matter how much I love that person.
If he/she prefers that, I rather give the person the freedom rather than holding him back
which will in turn make myself suffer.
You can say that I am selfish.
But I rather protect myself rather than being hurt by such feelings again.
This leads to my other question:
4. During marriage, why are there marriage vows such as:
"Do you take ___ as your lawful wife/husband,
to have and to hold,
from this day forward,
for better or for worse,
for richer or for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love and cherish until death do you part?"
Does each party actually mean it at all?
Then why will there be adultery in the 1st place?
Sometimes I really wonder:
"Is there such thing called LOVE?"
I reckon from what I see, it doesnt seem to be the case.
How am I going to believe in love?
Seeing so many failed marriage in this world.
Sighs.
5. Why are there such thing called "Happily ever after?"
There is no such thing happening in such a world?
So many unhappy marriage or even relationship existed in this world.
I see some friends and family have long lasting relationship.
How do they actually do that?
It is due to
(a) habit of being togther?
(b) Real true love?
(c) Others which I also have no idea at all.
I need answers!!
Devastated.
Sad.
Angry.
Confused.
So many different kind of feelings mixed together.
What should I do?
Still believe in love?
Or should not believe that there is no such thing as love at all?
Should I just be single?
Just be together with someone and just be like that?
How am I going to get assurance for marriage and love?
It is so difficult.
I am still trying my best to stay faithful and loyal to the one I love.
However, seeing all these things that happened,
it just makes me worried.
Scared that such happy marriage won't happen in my life.
I really have no idea of what to do.
Sighs.
I can emphatize the victim (shown in the picture)
Now I have not much mood to talk now.
I shall continue to blog next time.
Sighs.
